Reply To: Responding to the Attack Thread On Me and This Community at Cakewalk Forums

[peter]

OMG! Now Pragi is lying too.

Pragi created two deal threads — each duplicated already posted deal threads. I commented to tell him that. He quickly shot me a very angry PM demanding that I immediately delete his account, that he no longer wants to be part of this community. I responded that everyone makes duplicate deals — it’s really no big deal and share that I’ve done it a bunch of times. He disparages me, calling me a name like idiot and again demands that I delete his user account immediately (the guy is incredibly entitled and bossy; BTW, there is no legal obligation in my state to delte a users account, which of course, can screw up threads where the member had posted). So, I once again appealed to him to reconsider and wrote, “How about this, I’ll check back with you tomorrow and if you still feel strongly that you don’t want to be part of this community, I’ll close your account and consider deleting it.” He shoots back an insult at me, basically, telling me I’m stupid and just need to listen to him.

The next day, I contact him via email and send a really positive email — hoping that he’s cooled down and more reasonable. He replies, calling me names — to the effect of clueless idiot — and then he compares me to Napoleon, writing that I’ve let the power of having a forum go to my head and using a quote about dictators. I did reply by telling him that he’s been a real jerk. That’s the only part of his story that’s true. And I stand by that comment. That guy is a jerk and a very strange individual, plain and simple.

In JIH64 case, he had posted right after Larry’s racist trope post and referred to me as a “stupid f*cking ret*rded prick.” I quickly suspended him.  He then sent me a series of hateful emails calling me similar crude insulting names. He then forwarded me hateful emails Larry had sent him about me. JIH64 still called me more names. Then he calmed down. After I shrared screenshots of Larry’s posts, he stated that Larry had been lying to him about what occurred, but he still hurled some insults at me. Then, a couple of weeks went by and he started sending me emails about gear that were friendly, it was very, very strange. I banned him and it wasn’t because I couldn’t forgive the guy for calling me names, it was because this guy isn’t someone I could trust to behave in a civil manner.

This site is a passion project. It’s also a money pit for me and a huge time suck. I am doing it out of ideals. I don’t want or need to deal with toxic people like cclarry, JIH64 and anyone who lashes out at others. I have thick skin. I forgive easy. But I am not going to bring back people who use this forum to call others — me in this case — a “”stupid f*cking ret*rded p*ick.”

Anyhow, on to more enjoyable things. It’s pretty easy to see why those individuals are a terrible fit for a non-toxic community. But clcarry and Pragi both quit this community — and I later would consider them banned permanently. I immediately banned JIH64 after he called me a “stupid f*cking ret*rded pr*ck” and it’s not simply because the guy lashed out at me, it was because someone like that — who proceeded to send me more than a dozen emails that went from profane rants, to acknowledging that Larry was lying to him, to then stating that I was responsible for Larry’s bad behavior because I had constantly praised him, then sending me emails as if we were pals, it was unstable and extremely toxic. I didn’t trust this guy and this forum is my passion project. I and the other moderators, don’t have time to deal with people who are already proven to be off-the-rails ragaholics lashing out at others. So, it’s really just a matter of not trusting that this guy can control himself. I think it would be foolish to think that he could.

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